Grandparents Day: 11 September 2016

Originating in the United States but increasingly recognised in other countries, National Grandparents Day aims to recognise and celebrate the vital role of grandparents.

I have fond memories of my own grandparents and was fortunate in that, although my parents separated and I lost contact with my father, I maintained a relationship with my paternal grandparents.

These days grandparents often play a huge role in their grandchildren’s lives, frequently providing child care. Sadly, when parents break up, many grandparents worry that contact with their grandchildren could be affected.

 If you have found yourself cut out of your grandchildren’s lives you are not alone, sadly this happens all too often.

Whilst it may be difficult, try not to take sides – your main priority should be to your grandchildren who will be hurt if they hear either parent being bad mouthed.

Reassure each parent that you are there to support the children and that you want to maintain contact with the grandchildren. Be patient – separation can be hugely stressful for parents who they may need a little time to come to terms with things.

Consider mediation – a way to sort out a plan for the grandchildren and how you can play a role in their lives without resorting to Court.

If you're still concerned about your relationship with your grandchildren, take legal advice from a specialist family lawyer. Whilst grandparents do not have any automatic legal rights to see their grandchildren, they do fall into a group of people who can apply to the court for permission to seek a child arrangement order. Courts generally view grandparents' roles as very important and will look at a number of factors when deciding if the application can be made, including your relationship with the grandchildren and whether the application could be disruptive to the children. If the court grants the application they will consider what level and type of contact is in the grandchildren’s best interests.

However, court proceedings should be a last resort - sending a letter from a good family lawyer or trying mediation should be considered first.

For more information, contact Liza Pickles at our Brighouse office on 01484 710571 or email Liza at rep@wilkinsonwoodward.co.uk